Terry Daggett, CHt, CRC offers Positive Growth and Healing Services at her private therapy practice in Bend, Oregon. When your willingness and desire to transform some aspect of your life, come together with Terry Dag
gett's desire to support you in that goal, miracles of open hearted healing and transformation often happen. Regardless of the life issues through which you may currently be working, Terry weaves your commitment to your own growth and healing together with effective alternative therapies, creating a powerful force for positive change. Due to her eclectic training background, a lifetime ability to recognize the best in the people she meets, and faith in the power of the human spirit to grow, Terry offers unique therapeutic services designed for the individual needs of each client. Contact her today to make an appointment at Lightworks, Beyond Therapy, 541-788-2385 for proven life changing experiences. YOUR PAST DOES NOT NEED TO BE YOUR PRESENT
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY
The journey back to self
When we learn to "Remove the blocks to Love's presence" the love breaks free to wash away whatever has become stagnant or stuck in our hearts, minds or spirit, and we are once again back to our natural state of being, which is love.
Like so many others at the beginning of their healing journey, Terry compounded the existing pain that drove her to therapy 30 years ago with feelings of shame at needing the help, judging herself as weak for not being able to do it on her own. What she's grown to believe after so many years on her own journey, followed by her subsequent years of training and the 100's of clients she's worked with through her years as a therapist is this; it is the people who reach out for help that are the most courageous and the most responsible. By feeling the feelings that we're afraid to face and learning about our own destructive behaviors or habits, by acknowledging issues such as needing help with our parenting skills or facing the dark nights of the soul, by feeling instead of numbing out through alcohol or workoholism or any addictive behaviors--by facing ourselves is how we become more conscious, more powerful, more successful and ultimately and most importantly, more loving human beings.
When we look at the world today it just makes sense to realize that we need those people brave enough to face their own pain because we need their clarity, creativity and joy of life that come on the other side of the healing journey. Our families, our communities and the world we live in need as many people as possible who are courageous enough to face the darkness in order to bring more light and clear thinking into a world walking the tightrope between the two.
There is an exponential ripple effect of wonder and love released into the world when one person opens their heart first to themelves and then to the people in their own sphere of influence. So choosing to take the journey of healing into the place of wholeness and beauty at your center will not only be a gift to yourself, but a gift to everyone whose lives you touch. Blessings on your journey.
"Your life is an occasion. Rise to it!"
Mr. Magorium
MARRIAGE & COUPLES COUNSELING
RELATIONSHIP ISSUES
When people think of the word "relationship" often their first thought is a picture of a couple, but the truth is one does not have to be paired up to be in relationship to others. From the day we are born we are in relationships with everyone to whom we come in contact: our parents, siblings, friends, teachers, co workers, bosses, even the guy who accidentally cuts us off in traffic. And then, of course, most importantly, there is the relationship with ourselves. As social beings the quality of our lives is in direct proportion to the quality of our relationships. So whether you are married, in a committed relationship, or someone's friend, son, or daughter the more you can find peace, meaning, and humor in your relationships the happier you will be in your every day lives.
MARRIAGE & COUPLES
Its so easy to forget after vows are taken or promises made that the union of two lives is not just moving in together, a mixture of furniture and time, payers of bills, someone to keep company and with whom to eventually raise children. The union of two lives is first and foremost a spiritual union, a contract to support each other through each person's spiritual and personal growth. Getting married is supposed to mean that you know there is someone always in your corner, someone who has your back regardless of the sharp curves that may suddenly show up on your journey together. Marriage is also about a willingness to see and remember the best most beautiful part of your partner on the days when they're not feeling so beautiful about themselves.
But, it's difficult to see the best in your partner when you are not in touch with the best within yourself. Anais Nin wrote, "We see the world not as it is, but as we are." In other words, however we are feeling inside, that's how the world, and especially the closest people in our world appear to us. So, for instance, if we have been keeping a secret, a secret for which we are holding guilt, then we will see our partner as guilty and secretive. Conversely, when we are feeling the truth about our deepest selves, that we are wonderful beyond measure, full of Light and love, then our partner will appear to be radiating love right back to us.
That's why the most loving gift two people can give to each other is to first learn who they are as individuals -- to discover and believe in the best parts of themselves. Because when you don't feel good about yourself, you see life in general and your partner specifically, through a veil of fears that make it difficult to even believe the love that's being offered. For so many of us because of issues in our past, the closer we get to someone the more frightened we become. When love is offered and not recognized it hurts everyone involved.
Terry will support you in finding the best of who you are and removing the veil that keeps you from enjoying the best that love has to offer--seeing the beauty of the other person as you recognize it in yourself.
AFTER THE AFFAIR
BRIDGING THE INFIDELITY GAP
There is no denying the pain of betrayal brought into a relationship when one person cheats. The damage done is immeasurable and for some it's just too difficult a chasm to ever want to cross and although that's completely understandable, it's also sad because infidelity is rarely as simple as it appears. As painful as it is, it can also be a starting place for truth and a level of honesty that has probably been missing prior to when the cheating began.
Infidelity happens for so many reasons, and rarely is it just because someone is a rotten immoral person. It happens because of fear. Of what, is different for each person but often when two people are afraid to tell each other what their needs are, or one or both avoid conversations that might be painful, or hold in resentments because they don't want to "rock the boat", or they're afraid that if they tell the truth they'll end up alone or any number of other possibilities, distance starts creeping in inch by inch, day by day, until some day one or both partners are feeling desperately alone. The list of seeming reasons go on and on. But the truth is, infidelity is a symptom, it's not the disease.
If two people are willing to step out of blame and fear just long enough to realize the truth of that, that the affair was the result of a problem that had been created by both parties, while it doesn't excuse the behavior, it makes forgiveness and the possibility of building a bridge back to each other possible. When we break a bone in our body, where the bone heals and knits back together in the form of a scar, the bone is stronger than it was before the break. So it can be with relationships after an affair. But it takes willingness on both sides, to step out of being "right", an incredibly difficult task for the one who has been cheated on, but if both of you can allow yourselves to take an honest look at the disease instead of the symptom, then you've taken the first step toward building that bridge back to each other.
If you are in a relationship in need of bridge building skills, please call Terry Daggett at Lightworks Beyond Therapy. There can be love and life and even trust after an affair...
"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing
There is a field.
I will meet you there.
Rumi
